This book is about relationships between couples, friends, sieblings, work mates, and it is fostering understanding of emotions in yourself and others in an easy to understand way. I wish I had read this book many years ago. I will listen to it over again. To listen to John Gottman voice explaining his findings in this non-judgemental way is actually a feel-good experience that nurtures hope.
Very interesting to hear about the different responses to bids, and about the emotional command centres.

This book changed me. The author breaks down communication between ALL people to a system of "bids". I realized I had been unknowing and habitually "turning away" from the people in my life, subconsciously ruining my relationships. Directly after reading this book I stopped, and my relationships have been flourishing. Oh, and the command system stuff helps a lot in understanding people's motivations. But the "bid" stuff is REALLY amazing and on point. Also, its very simple and easy to understand. No nonsense fluff in this book.

Certainly a lot of research went into the writing and content of this book. Very good, sound advise to inspire anyone looking to improve their relationship with another. Only a 4 star rating, because at times it hard to make all that research interesting, but much appreciated and thank you for doing it Gottman!

If everyone followed this as a guide for any relationship, the world would be a better place and we would all be a lot happier